To his friend…
When I get invited to an ugly Christmas sweater party
Wheatley parked himself in the sink and Angie got really offended
|—||President Obama, December 5, 2013|
My new favorite pastime: making my coworkers feel old.
"you graduated high school in 94? I think i graduated diapers in 94"
"this was your prom song? I think i was 1 when it came out"
I do this!!! It’s fun to reassert youngness when you’re panicking about being an adult.
coworker: I want my husband to dress up as Urkel. You watched Family Matters, right?
me: Yeah I totally caught reruns on Nick at Nite when I was 6.
❄Post-it-Love-Notes Winter Nights Edition❄
I have two (easily) functioning hands. Like, honestly I’m not trying to be cute or funny, there’s some situations in which being one handed would be hard as fuck. I think people should try things like that every now and then. Try walking around and only supporting yourself with one leg. Try using…
Good that you are wanting to learn and ready to make an effort. Just bear in mind (and I hope you realized this already) that pretending to have a disability for five minutes really cannot match up to the real life experience of a life-long disability.
For example, you could put in ear plugs in order to supposedly learn what it is like to be deaf like I am. Except that, you still wouldn’t have a taste of how I live my daily life because you might not be aware of (or have immediate access to try out) all sorts of little things like the vibrating alarm clock I use to wake up in the morning, or the flashing lights that let me know if someone is at the door, or the way I use video relay service to make phone calls to anyone I need to anywhere in the world. There are also all sorts of skills I have learned through a life time of being deaf that you just wouldn’t have when you try to fake it for five minutes. For example, deaf people often end up more attentive to our peripheral vision than hearing people. No we don’t develop superhuman seeing powers! It’s just that we notice more quickly if there is a motion in our peripheral vision because we don’t tune it out the way most hearing people do (because, for you, there isn’t much that your peripheral vision tells you that your hearing doesn’t also tell you, so it’s just a needless distraction). And that’s something you can’t really develop in a few minutes of wearing ear plugs.
So when you pretend to have a disability you can end up, frankly, with a pretty skewed perception of what it is really like to have a disability. For example, you could end up assuming certain things are really hard for us when actually they are very easy to adapt for if you have the right tools or just have enough experience to know how to adapt for certain things. Meanwhile, you might miss other things where maybe I do still need a bit of help because you just don’t have enough time to run into them when doing these experiments.
I’ve heard stories where people put on a blindfold for an hour then go around saying, Gosh it was so scary just walking around the table with a blind fold on, so it must be so scary to be blind all the time and that must be awful. And that’s ridiculous. No, blind people do not go around being scared of being unable to see the rest of their life. If they become blind later in life, they eventually learn new ways to navigate (often with training) and learn to gain confidence. If they’re born blind then it’s even easier because then they don’t have to unlearn all their old way of doing things.
And meanwhile, when you try to fake it with a blind fold or ear plugs or whatever, you could end up missing a LOT of the important stuff that many people with disabilities might actually be much more interested in seeing you learn. Like, the way that non-disabled people create and perpetuate all sorts of completely unnecessary barriers for us. For example, there are certain kinds of information that might only be broadcast over a loud speaker system without any thought to how deaf people might access that information. And other information that might be put out only in visual format such as billboards or handouts without any thought to how blind people will access that information. ANY information important enough to get out to the whole public (example: emergency warning alert systems) NEEDS to be conveyed via as many different mediums of communication as feasible: Radio AND billboards AND phone voice mail AND text messages AND sign language AND, AND, AND. Because there is no one single system of communication that will reach everyone. ALL of them will miss SOME. It is ALWAYS a bad idea to rely on only one mode of mass communication NO MATTER WHICH ONE YOU CHOOSE. But when you combine MULTIPLE systems of communications, the odds of reaching everyone goes up dramatically. Because although ALL modes of communication miss SOME people, each of them will miss DIFFERENT PEOPLE. Which means EACH mode of communication may reach people who are missed by other modes of communication. If more people would grasp this concept and be more attentive to disseminating information via multiple channels of communication, that would have much more practical impact on my daily life than someone putting in ear plugs and going, “Gosh, I couldn’t hear the birds singing” or whatever. You can wear ear plugs if you want, Just please supplement it with more practical learning as well.
If you’ re really serious about learning how to create a society that is more inclusive of us people with disabilities, forget about blind folds and ear plugs and tying one hand behind your back or hopping on one leg or whatever. Because that gets you focused on a fairly superficial aspect of our experience. Instead, start learning about ableism and accessibility and discrimination and universal design and inclusion. Learn the difference between the medical model, charity model and the social model/ human rights model of disability.
Just a few of the resources that could help you get started:
Things under the “ableism” tag at my own blog: http://andreashettle.tumblr.com/tagged/ableism
World Report on Disability by World Bank and World Health Organization. Doesn’t use the word “ableism” but does talk about some of the barriers that people with disabilities confront in society all around the world and how this can often impact our daily lives. These barriers are all examples of ableism.
For more personal perspectives from many people with many different types of disabilities, check out some of the posts submitted to the 2013 annual Blogging Against Disableism Day. (Disableism is the same thing as ableism, except that the term is mostly used in the UK). Want more? Check out blog posts from past years of the same event: 2006, 2007, 2008, 2009, 2010, 2011 and 2012.
Also, go explore some of the resources about disability rights athttp://gdrl.org. If it’s a human rights violation against people with disabilities because of their disabilities, then that’s generally a form of ableism. All 12 information portals listed at http://gdrl.org were developed together as part of the Global Disability Rights Library project, though the portal by that name (Global Disability Rights Library) will have the most information about the human rights of people with disabilities.
Also, try googling phrases like “universal design” or “disability inclusive education” and so forth.
Or browse through web sites created by disability rights advocacy organizations. You can find a lot of the international disability-led organizations here. Each of these organizations have their own member organizations in countries around the world. And many of those national organizations may have even more member organizations at the local level in their countries.
Good luck getting started.
i’m watching this documentary about halloween and there’s a part where they’re explaining that ghost stories got really popular around the civil war no one could really deal with how many people went off and died and
the narrator just said
"the first ghost stories were really about coming home"
#but wow let me tell you about how the american civil war changed the whole culture of grief and death #because before that people died at home mostly #where their family saw them die and held their body and had proof they were really dead and it was a process #but during the war people left and never came home their bodies never came back there was no proof #people died in new horrific ways on the battlefield literally vaporized by cannonballs or lost in swamps and eaten by wild animals #and there were NO BODIES to send home #and people simply couldn’t grasp that their son or father or husband was really gone #there are stories about people spending months searching for their loved ones #convinced they couldn’t be dead if there were no body they were simply lost or hurt and they needed to be saved and brought home #embalming also really started during the civil war as a way for bodies to be brought home as intact as possible #wow i just wowowow the culture of death and grief and stuff during this time period is fascinating and sad #history (via souryellows)
#quietly reblogs own tags #also the civil war was when dog tags and national cemetaries became a thing #and during the war there was n real system in place to notify families of the deaths #like they’d find out maybe from letters from soldiers who were there when their loved one died nd stuff #but there was no real system #and battlefield ambulances were basically invented because so many people died on the battlefield when they could have been saved if they co #…could have been moved frm the battlefield to a hospital #like there was this one really inlfuential dude whose son died that way and he became dedicated to getting an ambulance system in place
I’m not doing this in the correct tag-style, but.
IIRC, the Civil War also played a huge part in forming the modern American conception of heaven as this nice, domestic place where you’re reunited with your loved ones. People (particularly mothers) responded to the trauma of brother-killing-brother by imagining an afterlife in which families would once again be happy together.
(also not doing this in the correct tag-style, because I wanna KNOW— )What documentary is this? Or is there more than one? Any books on the subject? THIS IS FASCINATING.
cool (ghost) story, bro.
reblogging because, as a us history phd student, i want to say YAY for how much of this is totally on point. i also want to rec the book where a lot of this is covered very, very well, which is Drew Gilpin Faust’s “This Republic of Suffering: Death and the American Civil War.”
a lot of books on the Civil War are deadly dull because they’re about battles and shit, but as a transformative moment in mindset and ideology, it becomes *fascinating*
the other book I’d even more highly rec is David W. Blight’s “Race and Reunion,” which is about how the “(white) brother against (white) brother” image of the war was invented and how throwing African Americans to the merciless viciousness of post-Reconstruction racist whites was part of constructing this “oh everybody was white men and everybody was noble let’s celebrate them all” approach to Civil War remembrance
very good stuff
John Singer Sargent (1856 – 1925)
Absolutely exquisite portraits! He just makes drawing look so effortless…